The Wills of God
Although the decretive will of God is generally hidden or secret, this does not mean that God has left us completely blind concerning his eternal purposes. We know the big picture and many of the smaller details. Certain mysteries have been made crystal clear by glorious glimpses into his Secret Will through Scripture. For instance, we know the purpose of the incarnation and the crucifixion. We know that God planned all along to bring gentiles into his chosen family through adoption. These were clouded in the Old Testament through what Hebrews calls "shadows." The New Testament clearly reveals these shadows and mysteries. God has given us glimpses in Scripture of what everything will look like in the end according to his sovereign decree: He will destroy evil, punish sinners, and bring his family into eternal fellowship with him in the new heavens and earth. He has told us about the doctrine of election, even though he has not told us who, among all the lost around us, are the elect. The Secret Will is more or less revealed as God has seen fit to give us glimpses into his purposes.
That Mysterious Third Will
What does not exist in Scripture is a third, unnamed will, which I will now name the “Third Will.” The “Third Will” supposedly exists between the Revealed and Secret, barely perceivable only by those who are spiritually tuned in, like a whispering undertone within the consciousness--a still, small voice. It requires a high degree of mystical harmonization and threatens great penalties upon those who fail to accurately perceive or obey it--they are at risk of missing God’s will for their lives.
This spiritually destructive view of God's will runs rampant due to unchecked Arminian influences upon many evangelical churches. It presupposes some violable plan not otherwise revealed in Scripture that exists as some mix of the Secret and the Revealed. It is often described as “God’s best for you.” The process of learning it is sometimes called “discerning God’s will.” Young people in these traditions are taught from an early age that one of the most important things they can do in life is discern God’s will. As if teenagers didn't have a hard enough time with everything that is clearly revealed.
Belief in this "Third Will" leads many to unbiblical assertions and unnecessary anxiety. We have all seen it in action. You have seen it when someone has said something like, “I just knew God was telling me to do such-and-such” or “God told me everything was going to be alright” or "I have finally found what God wants me to do with my life!" You may even have fallen for it yourself!
In my younger years, my experience with this mystical "Third Will" led me to spend countless hours trying to “read the clouds” for God’s will--listening for that still, small voice and searching my heart for a sense of peace. I even measured my spirituality (and others’) by how attuned I was to God’s leading through the Holy Spirit. One of my greatest fears was doing something wrong and shutting off my mystical pipeline, leaving me blind in the dark. I imagined that God had a will about nearly anything and everything (which toothpaste, shirt, road, college, job, wife, etc.) Failure to discern and act upon this will would lead me down the wrong path and mess up God’s will for my life. At one point, I even fearfully broke off my engagement to my future wife (or did she break up with me?) because of some nebulous “lack of peace” that I presumed was integral to the process of “discerning God’s will.” Thankfully God rescued me from myself and we eventually got married.
Scripture simply does not support this idea of a “Third Will” that all Christians must discern and obey. Yes, it records that God directed people through miraculous, extra-biblical means; however it nowhere presents this as normative. Those who believe that God does have a mystic “Third Will” need to demonstrate 1) that it is clearly taught in Scripture 2) to whom it applies, 3) by what verifiable means it is discerned, and 4) to what decisions it applies and does not apply. That is a tall order which I believe cannot be accomplished through any clear teaching of Scripture.